My Crohnstipated Life

Divorce is sucking the life right out of me.  I haven’t had any time to work, let alone post on the blogs.  That is the reason for my absence and I’m expecting that it’s an acceptable one.  Every ounce of energy is spent on copying records, making time lines, depositions, obtaining records and all the other garbage that goes along with it.  So, now lawyers are officially involved on my end.  I thought it would be easy, give everything to the attorney, she sets it all up, we divide everything equally since Nevada is a 50/50 state and we move on.  That was the plan, right? 
What could possibly go wrong?
A lot…..the problem with our divorce is that we both have this sense of being wronged: for me, he allegedly cheating and betrayed my trust,  for him, well he says I was just a bad wife because I wasn’t a sex addict.

These feelings lie very near the surface and this process of legalizing everything brings them out.  I left my home with nothing but the clothes I could toss in bags and our lil baby, bearzy.  I literally left everything with him, 10 years of life including our businesses. Which in hindsight, was a poor decision.  Painful and expensive, definately a lesson learned.

The level of conflict is unsustainably painful.  Our court date was just extended for another 4 months which will make it a year that the process has been in the works.  I will be so happy when we are done, assuming it doesn’t turn into WW III between now and then. 

So here’s tidbit of wisdom for anyone contemplating or starting a divorce: it hurts, it sucks and will be the hardest thing you will ever have to do. It starts out easy, you’re strong and confident and gets very ugly very quickly.  If you can work things out, DO IT!